The slow burn

After the debacle with the drunk fireman, I decided to stay off the dating apps for a few months. I was moving into my new home and had a lot to do, so it didn’t bother me to be single and not dating in that time. I welcomed the peace.

When I did go back online I was not in love with the process. I matched with many, chatted with some and eventually accepted dates with a few. I am not wired to date multiple people at once anymore. I highly recommend it for most people…best to not put your eggs in one basket too early, but I’m enjoying my alone time more these days and don’t want to have to try to figure out how to schedule time for multiple people.

I met two noteworthy gentlemen in the last 6 months. I swiped right on both of them in the same day and both initiated conversation. The Car Guy asked me out first and I let the Funny Guy know a few days later that I had been out with someone and was focusing on just one person at a time these days and wished him well. He was super awesome about it and wished me luck with my dating. Two months later found me back online as although Car Guy was hot and heavy initially, he eventually had to admit he “didn’t know what he was looking for” (ie: really just wanted a friend with benefits and not real dates). So I wished him well (I don’t want to be just a late night FWB…I like going out on dates!!).

I thought of Funny Guy and wondered if he had any luck the previous two months, however I thought it would be rude of me to reach out as I didn’t want him to feel like Plan B. Realistically if he had not been so slow to ask me out it would have been him I accepted the first date from.

So I did not reach out and instead went back on the apps. In the second day on I came across Funny Guys profile and swiped right…we matched immediately. I sent the first message this time as I was eager to talk to him. When he responded he did so by text and said that he had kept my number as he hoped I would return. We talked briefly about the dates he had been on (I asked, I was curious). He quickly asked me out and noted the error of not doing this sooner the first time.

Our first date was dinner and a movie, which normally I do not do for a first meeting. Our time together was lovely, filled with laughter as he truly is hilarious. Little did I know that I was about to enter a weird phase of my dating experience and he would play a part.

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40 something mother just trying to figure out what happiness is.

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